Belated New Year Wishes to You!

I hope your holidays went well? Ours here were quiet, from which for all intent and purposes we shall therefore infer that they went well. That didn’t explain as to why I was feeling so exhausted and run down afterwards however. Obviously a result of all that excess and over indulging that we associate with the time of year alongside all the rushing around we usually expect to do. The scales were not on my side however and much of the weight I had lost over the previous four months had magically reappeared overnight.


So I have made some decisions about getting back on track.

• Buy some new scales! The old ones seemed to be jumping wildly from day to day and I was getting uncertain as to whether they needed adjusting before and after I stepped off them. So I have opted to replace the old metric scales with a set of new digital ones. Now I can see even smaller dips or rises in my weight. I’m asking if that is necessarily a good thing? I don’t appear to have put on as much weight as I thought but it is still enough to require some serious attention.

• Seek out some proper exercise! Going for a short walk at lunch is losing its appeal as the weather gets colder. Strangely I’m also finding a distinct lack of enthusiasm to get back into climbing the fifteen floors to work twice a day, which has to be done in its entirety from the start with no access to other floors. There is talk of a Zumba class starting in work, though the date of the taster class seems a little uncertain. I did turn up for one just before Christmas, but being so close to the holidays I was the only person there and we opted to wait until the New Year so more people had the opportunity to try it out. Still waiting. If it doesn’t happen soon I’m going to have to look at something else.

• Stop eating so much chocolate! This is a proper addiction that I definitely liken to trying to stop smoking. So difficult to do and if I thought I can get away with the odd indulgence over Christmas I was very much mistaken. It’s a curse sent to challenge me. I’m sure I’m not alone on this one.

• Take some time out for me! This is notoriously a difficult time for many of us as we try and return to work after the holidays. Headline after headline reports highest sick rates in work at this time of year and yesterday purportedly being the most depressing day of the year (Blue Monday). I was feeling so tired and worn out. I couldn’t get any enthusiasm to do anything. So I booked a long weekend with Friday and Monday specifically just for me. Girl did I need it! On Friday I tried to catch whatever last minute bargains I could in the sales. I came home with some proper knee high boots that can be worn beneath my jeans when I feel the need in male mode as well. Also there were some skirts and a blouse that just screamed out to me. I am happy. Monday was then a full on Grace day for me. Something I haven’t had the opportunity to do for a while. To say I needed it would be an understatement. I felt the great outdoors beckoning though. Relaxing at home is beneficial but last year’s exploit has boosted my confidence as a woman. I will have to make that something to do soon too.

Elsewhere I’m helping out last minute as stage manager for a production so that is helping with the exercise and weight. There is the possibility of some other acting opportunities in a few months but there are more important things possibly happening. We’ve heard from the hospital that there is a possible donor on the next round of the paired donorship scheme. We will know in a few weeks if tissue matches etc are favourable. My wife is a little put out about the acting opportunity and thinks my priorities lie with that. Bit of a no brainer as far as I’m concerned, she couldn’t be further wrong. Getting her well again takes precedence over anything else, no matter what. Try and get her to see that though is another thing. So long as I know that I have my priorities straight on this she will have to wait and see the proof in the pudding.

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Have spent most of the day today doing what I enjoy most in work. Working on and discussing LGBT issues etc. That is what keeps me going. Pity it has to be on my own time, mostly as it is secondary to my day to day role. Had a marvellous meeting with a colleague catching up on things and reminiscing how things have developed over the past year. Personally I seem to be much happier and comfortable with myself and this is showing. With regards to the issues at hand and promoting them etc, again I’ve come a long way and currently I’m co-chairing the LGBT staff network. Who’d have though all that would happen in a year? What will next year hold in this respect? I realise I don’t have the weight or possibly the right way of thinking to do much in the way of up front campaigning etc. Gentle persuasion and dialogue I think is more me. There is also a lot to learn from work and the way they do things that I can transfer to these particular issues. Think I might try and pop up from time to time at other group/organisation meetings, or at least offer my perspective if they want to hear it. All can be done quietly and allow me to concentrate on things at home when I need to. Home has to be  a priority next year but I also need to still do things that allow me to develop and express myself. I think, no feel, a balance is possible in this respect.

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Today was one of those days where if I had the opportunity I would leave my job for pastures new. Nothing to do with anything bad as I think my employer on most counts has been fairly good to me, especially of late. It’s more to do with what exactly do I have left to achieve in my current role? Having spent a year preparing for a major campaign I have to think now about what next can I do? Is there anything else to develop and build upon? Itchy feet do not necessarily mean a bad situation, just a lack of inspiration and motivation and where can I get it?

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Shopping therapy has come up trumps. Found a plain black suit jacket that will go with skirts and dresses for that professional look. Just £12. Happy and content. Part of me wishes I could go to work like that sometimes.

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Trying to get motivated today was so hard in work. Despite working with people over the phone there was distinct lack of actually seeing people face to face. Just myself and the four walls of my room, with no one popping in as they walked past. This was a very long day.

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Today continued much like yesterday, though I wasn’t out and about as much. The female connection today was with my wife. Talking about all sorts and this and that. One of those days to feel almost completely accepted. So very, very nice.

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This has definitely been a day for feeling like I had tapped into a female state of mind. I started the day getting my hair done and then moving on to start getting the Christmas shopping out of the way. Everywhere I seemed to go I felt part of a female collective. I was for all intent dressed in my male apparel, though as I’ve said before I’m becoming increasingly androgynous, especially with my hair freshly done. However, I felt strongly female today. I think that was showing too in how I talked and acted for there was a connection with many of the women I talked to. Hard to explain, but it was a nice day.

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Have to admit I feel rotten today. Lethargic and down right low. Feel like I need good cry too! The reason for this? I’m not entirely sure. So much has been going on and now with some breathing space I realise just how much it has taken out of me. Need to recharge my batteries. Something nice. I feel a little shopping therapy might not go a miss! Can't afford much but let's see if I can find a bargain!

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Learning a few home truths can be instrumental in assisting you to develop. Thinking that others need to do the learning can sometimes infer that there may be things you are not expecting to hear as well. Be ready for that and it won’t seem to be such a surprise.

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It was such a slow day today. I have to admit that Christmas seems so far away until you realise there is only just another week to go! Cripes! I’ve requested some perfume for Christmas and reiterated with my wife that that does not mean my male side has to have a present too. I am after all the same person.

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I was sat on the bus the other day, near the back with a handful of teenage girls sat behind me. Then came the inevitable ability to hear everything they were saying. It is a strange phenomenon that one, how everyone on a bus can hear what such girls say. It’s almost as if the volume switch is either broken or has been turned up intentionally. Can’t really guess which? I’m digressing of course, back to their conversation. They start to talk about Trannies. Well one does and starts to say you can always tell one. “Can you?” I think along with the thought they might be talking about me and that this is going to turn into one interesting bus journey if they are. But I have to take a step back and realise there is something different about this situation. The other girl throughout has been putting her friend right on the proper use of terminology and is a lot more matter of fact about the whole thing and appears to be much more clued up on it all. Well done her. Things didn’t get worse for me on that bus and I spent a little while contemplating how things can change one person at a time and not to judge straight away.

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Birthday wishes going out to my sister. Sisterly love she doesn't even know exists across the ether!

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Is it alright to admit I hate it when it's time to put up the Christmas tree? Not in a bah humbug kind of way. It's nice when it's there. It's getting from box to finished product that always seems to inevitably end in tears in our family. I've opted to remain on the sidelines or avoid it all together if I can. There is so much need for a glass of mulled wine by the time it's all over! ;-)

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I have recently been looking around me and decided it was time to follow the crowd and get myself a purple mac, (coat that is), and some warm woolly hats. Trouble is as much as I like the look I am slightly reminded of a character from early in Victoria Wood's repertoire, (apologies for not recalling the name of the character), I'll leave it for you to decide. Never mind. I still like them!